Confidence

I was listening to the lovely podcast She Does last week when it featured an interview with documentary filmmaker, Kalyanee Mam.  Near the end of the podcast, in a moment so brief you might have overlooked it, Mam said something so incredibly true and profound that I had to write it down.

When you really love what you’re doing—when you really care about what you’re doing—you don’t even have to exert confidence, it’s just who you are.  It’s just being. But when you’re not sure of who you are and where you belong and what your path is, sometimes you impose confidence on yourself which becomes very artificial and I see it in people and it’s not confidence, but arrogance.

I think when you’re really truly at ease with yourself, there’s a lot of comfort and humility and compassion for others who may not be as comfortable as you are.

Kalyanee Mam

This is so powerful and so, so good.  How many times have I imposed confidence on myself in times that I felt out of place?  MANY.  And how many times must have I looked like an arrogant ass?  I’d rather not think about that.